HAPPY NEW YEAR, FRIENDS! One of the brightest highlights of my year came at the very end, and I’d love to share it with you.
I am profoundly honored and humbled to be featured on one of the most revolutionary platforms I’ve ever seen in the adult industry -tryst.link
With the kickass exception being AUS and NZ, most of the world is either: intentionally designed to degrade, disregard, disrupt, ignore, and/or censor the voice and presence of seggswrkerz; or unintentionally structured to do so due to the lack of information and understanding about the industry.
Tryst.link is life-changing. Unlike other S-cording websites that publicly dehumanize and disassociate from the very same workers they profit from, Tryst.link is a platform built by sex workers who understand the realities, misconceptions, challenges, and joys around being a sex worker. In addition to providing easy-to-use profiles that display the important stats such as hourly rates, booking info, tours, etc, tryst creates content, guides, prompts, and blogs that allow us to explore and showcase what makes us creative, unique, and sexy asf.
Go now and read all of the AMAZING FREE RESOURCES ON THE TRYST BLOG. You’ll find things like practical advice for sex workers , guides for both new and experienced clients, and tons of other features from sex workers all around the world. I don’t exaggerate when I say that their platform is life-changing: Booking inquiries I receive from there are polite, kind, and overall amazing. When I log onto their platform as a sex worker, I’m greeted both as a human being and as a professional worker with images and messages that validate my existence, safety, and well-being. For context, most other platforms available to us are 3x more expensive with an extremely slow, user-unfriendly site that publicly denies any affiliation with sw while happily and frequently accepting the hundreds of dollars we pay for a 7 day ad, for example, that may only run for 4. When it comes to sex work, most of today’s websites, clubs, and laws all perpetuate the same nauseating, outdated, and exploitative trope onto us either directly or indirectly. It sounds like this: You’re a whore and no one respects whores. You don’t have any other options so where else are you going to go?
Well, Mr. Big Boss, we’re gonna go where we’re wanted!
Tryst is a ruthless supporter of sex workers. They are us. They love us. And they celebrate us. Tryst wants us shamelessly and aggressively, because they know just how valuable we are. They want us to not just exist but to thrive and grow in any way we want to with access to resources and opportunity made available to any other community, person, or profession. While most adult businesses perpetuate a competitive work environment (either consciously or unconsciously) in which one person’s gain often comes at the price of another person’s loss, Tryst openly and actively creates intentional space for sex workers to help one another by sharing info on things like how to take great photos, diversify our income, talk to our partners, follow better business practices, go on tour, and navigate the intricacies of working within an intimate industry.
My escorting services are now exclusively on tryst for many reasons but specifically and significantly due to the experiences I’ve had with clients and people who have found me thru Tryst and those who found me thru somewhere else. (Keep in mind, ofc, that these are the limited and narrow experiences of myself and a few close friends. If other providers find or seek tons of success and joy elsewhere, I’m 100% here for it - There are phenomenal connections to find everywhere, even in the most unlikely of places like misogynistic dating sites. However, once Tryst became the place where I would most-likely find compatible matches, I officially made the move).
So I’m writing this post for two reasons: 1) To share why this is important to me and why I’m so excited to be published for the first time on this kickass platform that celebrates sex workers and 2) I think there’s a big chance that you might find this information useful sometime in the very near future, either for yourself or someone you love. The financial and emotional stress of covid has launched the popularity of OnlyFans beyond household name status and into the realm of “straight from the mouth of Beyonce.” With significantly less stigma and misconceptions around sex work lurking around society, sex workers will start to feel way more safe in “coming out” to their friends and family about their chosen profession. Similarly to paths of marriage equality and the decriminilization of marijuana, sex workers will begin coming out in numbers way too massive to ignore. If you think you don’t currently know any sex workers or people interested in becoming part of the erotic industry, there’s already a big chance that you do, but the person in question keeps it secret due to the massive fear of losing their job, children, friendship, relationship, home, etc. - all very real and serious concerns due to stigma and criminalization. In the meantime, be mindful of how you think and speak about sex workers and our industry - you’re likely sitting next to one of us at the dinner table.